Changing

I’ve been thinking about this a lot. Three things prompted this.

1) There’s a new TV show on called “New Amsterdam.” The premise is this guy comes over to America very early on, and after he defends some Indians from evil white people, they reward him by breathing special smoke into him and as a result, he will never die. So in present day, he’s 400 years old and a detective in New York City. He has seen NYC grow from the start. He has 63 children and one of them is his buddy and is now like 65 years old or so.

2) There was a special on ABC News about “living to be 150 years old.” Imagine the things you would see throughout the course of 150 years. I remember Pa saying if Ma died first, he would get on a plane and come to Colorado. He was born in 1905. Just think of all the things he saw in his lifetime. Think of the things you’ve seen in yours – color TV, cell phones, microwaves, space shuttles, iPods, computers, etc. etc.

3) And right as I was thinking about all of this, I received this from one of my email groups:

How is it that when life is spun around by circumstances, benign or otherwise, some people flail while others sail? Why do some of us wallow in that place where we’re so shocked and unhappy about an unexpected turn of events that we resist reality and find ourselves mired in bitterness or fear or hopelessness? Instead of accepting change with grace, we dig in our heels and suffer through each day of things not being what we think they should be. What’s the secret to riding each new wave gracefully?

You can learn to accept change with equanimity, absorbing each phase in stride and learning from each new experience. Instead of running for the hills each time a change arises, deal with change in three distinct stages: Loosen your grip, separate your feelings, and tap into wisdom. Learning to make peace with life’s calamities – lost jobs, romances, dreams – does not mean you have to be passive.